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My Unconventional Loves: My Hurts, My Adulteries, My Redemption by Marie A. Abanga | A Review and Giveaway — September 9, 2014

My Unconventional Loves: My Hurts, My Adulteries, My Redemption by Marie A. Abanga | A Review and Giveaway

What on earth could push or pull a woman and mother of three to abandon her marriage, elope with a street kid, leaving those three kids behind?

What on earth could push or pull a woman to live such parallel lives and fake such an existence whereas all the ‘glamour’ was just superficial?

What definitely went wrong in her childhood that could have contributed to the sad and dare say ‘insane’ series of unconventional loves and existence?

Read the rest here …

(Image and synopsis via Goodreads)

My Thoughts:

I met Marie Abanga here on my blog. She left a comment on a post, and later used my Contact page to email me about her memoir.

Reading the synopsis told me there was a story here like none I had read in recent months. A story of a young woman on a journey, making mistakes as we all do, making wrong choices at times, and all of this rooted in a life which had provided its share of hurts and abuses.

In taking writing workshops and classes, instructors have told me to “loosen up your writing, write like you talk.” Marie Abanga does just that. I “listened” as I read to the cadences of her mother tongue and her speech pattern. I heard in them the description given her as a child, “a jolly kid.” Despite her woes and difficulties, Marie always seems to find the joy in life.

Marie established for herself a model to live by: the three D’s consisting of Determination, Discipline, and Dedication. A young woman struggles to live by these guideposts during the most difficult of times. And she survives!

Eventually, Marie finds where her faith rests. She considers her memoir:

My Story of Faith and God’s unconditional love for me and writing this book is My Therapy.

Marie’s memoir carries an extraordinary life message of how to turn life around when it has reached a point of almost no return. I highly recommend it to anyone looking for a message of survival via the three D’s.

Meet the Author:

I am a woman just like every other. I am a lawyer by professions, a mother, an ex-wife, a daughter, a sister, a lover and a friend to many. I am currently completing an LLM in International Law with International Relations from the University of Kent, Brussels School of International Studies and work as the Woman in Parliaments Global Forum Regional Coordinator for Africa.

I am a dynamic, determined, disciplined and dedication young woman and a feminist. Yes, I am a woman who tried to live a parallel life, tried to commit suicide, and tried to hide away in adulteries and failed woefully.

I currently live in Brussels, Belgium.

Connect with Marie here:



LinkedInMarie A. Abanga

Facebook: Let’s Go Merry with Marie

Book Details:
Published: February 20, 2014
Paperback and e-book available: ISBN-10: 1495482715 / ISBN-13: 978-1495482717

Where to Purchase: Available from Amazon.



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Good Things Are Coming: Upcoming Guests and Memoir Reviews — August 14, 2014

Good Things Are Coming: Upcoming Guests and Memoir Reviews

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Yes, good things are coming! I have some guests who will be sharing their insights into writing and life as well as a new memoir or two to review here. Thought I’d give you a heads up:

Next Thursday, August 21st, Lorraine Ashauthor of Self and Soul: On Creating Meaningful Lifewill be my guest. Lorraine will be sharing her thoughts on “Exploring Ancestral Patterns in Memoir.” This is a fascinating look at what traits and/or behaviors are ours via ancestry.

On Tuesday, August 26th, I will post my review of Kathy Pooler‘s recently published Memoir, Ever Faithful to His Lead: My Journey Away from Emotional AbuseKathy has told her story with integrity and holds out hope as a gift to those suffering through abusive relationships.

On Thursday, August 28th, my review of Lorraine Ash’s memoir mentioned above will be posted. Another story beautifully written from strength and courage with another gift of hope offered.

My next guest, Marie Abanga, visits me on Thursday, September 4th, as I interview Marie about writing her memoir, My Unconventional Loves: My Hurts, My Adulteries, My Redemptionand the struggles she overcame. I met Marie when she visited this blog and left a comment. I knew upon reading her book and learning more about her life I wanted to share Marie with my other followers in a special way. I’m looking forward to Marie’s visit, and I hope you’ll come back and meet her.

A few days later on September 9th I will be posting my review of Marie’s memoir mentioned above.

On Thursday, September 18th, Mary Gottschalkwill be my guest writing on “giving up on marketing.” Mary is the author of a memoir, Sailing Down the Moonbeam(here is my review) and a recently published novel, A Fitting PlaceHaving been through the publishing and marketing business with both books, Mary has advice and wisdom to share with us.

Below is a collage of the various books mentioned above. Perhaps one or more interests you. I encourage you to check them and the above dates in mind to return to get to know the authors better.

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